You’ve been thinking about it for a while. You’ve read the blogs, scrolled the forums, maybe even whispered your fantasy to a trusted friend. Now you’re finally ready to take the next step: booking your first session with a professional Dominant.
This can be incredibly exciting — and let’s be real, a little nerve-wracking too.
This guide will walk you through everything you need to know before your first experience with a Pro Domme, so you can show up feeling informed, empowered, and ready to explore safely.
A professional Dominant (or Pro Domme) is someone who offers structured, consensual, and legal BDSM sessions or coaching — typically with a focus on power exchange, service, protocol, fantasy, or skill development.
Pro Dommes are not sex workers (unless they specify otherwise in a legal context). Most offer:
Educational sessions (like submissive training or kink coaching)
Fantasy enactment (e.g., roleplay, protocol play, control dynamics)
Safe exploration of kinks or desires in a guided, structured container
Princess Raven, for example, is a professional Dominant and kink educator who specializes in consent-based D/s coaching, submissive mentorship, and personal growth through kink — always within safe, respectful, and clearly agreed-upon boundaries.
Every Domme has their own style and specialty, but a first session might include:
Discussion of your interests, fantasies, and goals
Negotiation of limits, comfort zones, and expectations
Structured scene or training experience (e.g. positions, obedience, ritual)
Gentle feedback, journaling prompts, or reflection time afterward
Some sessions may be entirely clothed and non-physical. Others may include physical elements like bondage, sensation play, or protocol enforcement — all within clear limits and legal frameworks.
There’s no “one right way” to do a session — there’s only what’s right for you and what’s been mutually agreed upon.
Here are the practical steps to take before your first session:
Read their website thoroughly
Review their offerings — and make sure they align with your intentions
Look for clear, ethical language around consent, legality, and boundaries
Read testimonials or reviews if available
Red flag: If someone avoids negotiation, refuses to answer questions, or pushes sexual expectations — walk away.
When contacting a Pro Domme:
Introduce yourself briefly
Mention how you found them and what you're looking for
Be polite and to the point
Avoid language that’s overly sexual, demanding, or casual. You are seeking a professional — not flirting on a dating app.
Most Pro Dommes will ask you to fill out an intake form or answer questions before your session. Be open about:
Your experience level (it’s okay if you’re brand new!)
Any medical concerns or trauma triggers
What you’re curious about and what you’re nervous about
Your hard and soft limits
Aftercare needs
This helps your Domme create a session that’s not just safe — but deeply rewarding.
Shower and dress neatly (even if you’ll change clothes or wear a uniform)
Get a good night’s sleep
Eat something beforehand (you’ll want energy and clarity)
Arrive on time, centered, and open to instruction
If you’re feeling nervous, that’s completely normal. Bring your nerves — and bring your willingness.
A good first session can feel transformative. But it’s also vulnerable — especially if this is your first time exploring submission in a structured way.
Keep these things in mind:
You don’t need to perform — you just need to be present
You’re allowed to slow down, speak up, or change your mind
Feeling emotional (even during or after) is totally valid
Journaling after the session can help process feelings and insight
And remember: you are not “bad” at submission just because you’re new. Every submissive starts somewhere. Your willingness to show up with curiosity is already beautiful.
You might ask:
What kind of session do you recommend for someone like me?
How do you structure your scenes?
Can we include time for debriefing or journaling after?
What’s your policy if I need to pause, stop, or change something during the session?
What’s included in the session time (negotiation, prep, aftercare)?
What’s your cancellation policy?
These questions show that you care about safety, structure, and mutual respect — which is exactly what a trustworthy Domme will want too.
If you’re considering your first session and want a professional, safe, and respectful guide, Princess Raven offers:
Submissive coaching sessions (in-person or virtual)
Fantasy + ritual play with a consent-based container
Scene structure, feedback, and post-scene support
Private mentorship for long-term submissive growth
Every session is focused on personal growth, empowerment, and skill-building — not performance or shame.
Your first session is a doorway. It’s the space where fantasy becomes intention, where nerves give way to trust, and where submission becomes something real.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to show up with curiosity and care.
Submission isn’t something you earn.
It’s something you choose to step into, with open eyes and an open heart.
And your journey starts exactly where you are.